How to Save a Life pt. IV: The Resource
You have asked the big question and you have helped the person understand that they should not take their own life (or at least have tried). Do you just let them be and leave? We can do more.
Chances are that you do not have a degree or license to counsel. But those who have these qualifications want to help. There is sometimes a stigma around getting counselling help, even for major concerns like suicide. There is somehow this idea that if you ask for help that you are weak. The opposite is true.
Asking for help shows an inner strength that embraces humility and seeks to go beyond the common.
Don’t be afraid to remind people of this when you’re having these conversations. There are many counselling centers that are even tied to churches or specific Christian communities. Make yourself aware of them before you talk to someone about suicide or if you haven't, look it up in the moment.
You can direct people who are struggling with suicidal ideation to many qualified individuals. One of the best is the psychologist or counselor. They are trained and certified to help with these issues. They can talk through your loved one’s struggles in a more impactful way. More than that, they can give coping techniques and strategies for overcoming future thoughts of suicide.
Another great resource is your local pastor or church elder. Most pastors and elders receive training on working through some of these issues. They can talk more directly about how God is working in their life and can help them overcome. At the very least, they can help direct them to professionals who can give them the treatment they need.
There are other options too. You can try to suicide prevention hotline and call directly. Call 1-800-273-8255 at any time and someone will answer. This is a great and easy resource to use. They can even answer your own questions about how to handle situations or give better help.
Another option that you can use if all else fails is the hospital. Many hospitals have in-patient programs that help assess and provide treatment for immediate situations. If your loved one can’t keep themselves safe, bring them to a place that can.
There are several options available depending on where you live and your current situation. The important thing is that you reach out for help. Do this with your loved one. Dial the number for them or take them to their appointment. Make them promise to stay safe in the meantime or to call you if they are having any other thoughts.
Do anything you can to keep them safe. Show God’s love and seek out the lost and the alone. Befriend them and bring them back to the life God meant for them.
Ask the right questions. Have a meaningful conversation. Connect them to resources.
That’s how you save a life.